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Any parent who is trying their best and is going out of his or her way to be the best parent possible is going to succeed. However, parenting children with ADHD is just a little bit different than parenting children who don't have the disorder. Here are some tips for improving your parenting skills.
1. Use Redirection
Instead of telling your child what he or she is doing is wrong and possibly disciplining him or her for the actions, trying using redirection instead. There are three different types of redirection.
The first type of redirection is to simply give your child another option for his or her behavior. For example, if your child is painting on the carpet, tell your child that he or she can paint on the floor if he or she wants, but needs to lay newspaper down first. This does not necessarily tell your child that his or her behavior is wrong, only that there is a better place for that kind of behavior.
The second type of redirection is to model the correct behavior for your child. For example, if you need your child to be quiet, tell him or her to act like you and make a quiet game out of it. Sit up straight and check to see if your child straightened his or her posture, signifying that he or she is mimicking you. If he or she is paying attention and behaving the way that you requested, make sure that you reinforce this behavior.
Finally, move your child elsewhere if his or her behavior is inappropriate to a location that is quiet. Tell your child what he or she is doing and how it is affecting the people around him or her. For example, if your child wants to run around in church, take your child out of the church for a minute. Tell him or her that he or she is distracting everyone else. Then, ask your child for some ideas about behavior that would keep people from being distracted. Brainstorm until your child is settled down and has an alternative plan of action.
2. Don't Overemphasize the Importance of Medication
When talking to your child about the medication, don't say phrases such as "once you get on your medication, you're going to be so much better behaved" because this gives the impression to your child that his or her behavior is entirely up to the medication. Instead, use the simile that the medication is like a pair of glasses. Glasses help you improve the sight that you already have, just like how medication helps improve the behavior and ability to focus that your child already has. This will help him or her feel like he or she is in control of how he or she acts, rather than merely at the mercy of the medication.
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