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Have you recently gone through a divorce? Are there children involved? Have you noticed some changes in your child's personality since the divorce? Children are not always good at expressing their feelings. If you don't do something to help your child, he or she could become emotionally imbalanced and have difficulties in school and at home. Visit our site to learn how to get your child into counseling to learn how to open up and share his or her feelings. Hopefully, you can help your child find comfort during a very difficult time in his or her life and learn to deal with emotions properly.

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Are Smartphones And Social Media Hurting Your Marriage?

Carter Mccoy

Many joke about being addicted to their smartphones and social media, but would it surprise you to know that these digital obsessions may also have a hand in ruining marriages? While chatting with friends on social media and tapping your smartphone all day may seem harmless, it turns out to be quite the opposite. If your marriage is struggling, read this guide to find out if your phone and social media habits might be to blame.

Social Media

Venting your feelings on social media may seem like a healthy way to cool down, but it may also be connected to marriage problems. One study found that social media use and unhappy marriages were inherently linked, though the scientists behind the study aren't entirely sure if social media use is causing the marriage problems, or if people with unhappy marriages are more likely to use social media to unwind.

It gets worse: another study in the UK found that married couples were more likely to get into fights over social media activity. Nearly 25% of participants said they got into fights with their spouse weekly over social media activity, and even divorce lawyers are aware of the problem. 81% of divorce lawyers polled in 2010 acknowledged that social media use played a big role in many of the divorce cases they saw. 

Smartphones

You probably use your smartphone to access your social media accounts, but the problem goes beyond social media. Smartphones give users access to a wide variety of apps, games, and other distractions that are fun, but just that: distractions. 

Staring at your phone can distract you from the world around you, the person you're married to, and others you care about. In one case, a man filed for divorce from his wife because she was so obsessed with gaming on her phone. Another study noted that smartphone users are more likely to exhibit selfish behavior and less likely to be spontaneously helpful and kind to others. To top it all off, parents with smartphones pay less attention to their kids, possibly putting them in risky situations or making them feel neglected.

What To Do

Whether you, your spouse, or both of you are spending too much time on your phones or using social media, you can always turn it around. Focus on spending more time together, face to face, without technology getting in the way. Try sitting quietly and staring into your loved one's eyes. This exercise is not only romantic and helps you to connect, it releases oxytocin (the love hormone) into your brain. Take some time each day to talk, communicate, and express frustrations so you can work them out instead of dumping it into a social media account. Signing up for marriage or couples therapy may also be helpful to you.

It's possible to maintain a healthy relationship with your loved one while enjoying the technological marvels of the modern age. Just take the time to connect and be affectionate with each other, and unplug now and then.


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